Fool's Gold

So I just so happen to fall in love with a man: Either he is already wealthy or he becomes wealthy during the time that we're together. We get married, start a family, live a very luxurious life. I'm in the house that I've always wanted, I've had the wedding that I've always planned and we party and network with some of the most well-known names in Hollywood. Basically this is the life!


Oh but wait... He cheats! The thought of him being unfaithful to me seems more than I can bear. Just by listening to everyone else's opinion I should immediately divorce him. We have children to be role models for. I choose to listen to my heart and most importantly adhere to the promise that we both made to God. If you have not been cheated on by someone you love you do not know my pain. There's no way he would ever do that to me again; it's completely out of his system.


It happens again. I'm done. I cannot stand for this. I want a divorce.

Why Am I Being Called A Gold-digger?

Whoa, whoa... Really people? Now I know some gold-diggers (#nocomment) and this is not one of 'em! As a woman (being only interested in your bank account) I'm not a big fan of having two of your kids, sticking with you for 10 1/2 years and going through the public humiliation of your first round of infidelity. This does not fit the role of a gold-digger. Obviously Kobe did not feel this way either, being that they did not sign a prenuptual agreement.

What really constitutes a gold-digger? 

Answers that do not mean anything:

• Married to a pro athlete
• Young
• Wanting half ($) after the divorce

It just throws me to hear that when a woman is dating a man worth money, she is immediately perceived as a gold-digger. Especially after a decade long marriage ending in divorce where she actually receives half of the man's fortune. Not ALL women have that in mind. Actually in this new millennium more women have intentions on making their own millions than being forced to rely on that of their husbands. It just so happens that I am one of them!


In defense of many intelligent, ambitious women, I feel that I have a right to know any and everything about my spouse's future financial plans. Being that according to God and the law we are considered one person.

B.Y.O.B.-Bite Your Own Butt

Long time, no talk people!! One reason for my absence is as follows:


Ladies! Be Careful Of How You Treat People!!! I will not divulge too deeply into anything personal but always remember that you never know who or what you may need from somebody in the future! Nor do you know what people are capable of. Recently I have been on the receiving end of a couple of jealous female minds. It's weird because I've never had to use the word jealous in defense of myself. Based on the fact that I grew up in the hood... yea exactly! LoL


Women sometimes may feel threatened by other women but GROWN women should then realize that the feeling is natural. It's all about how you perceive that threat: Should I take this, flip it and turn it into a situation that will work out in my favor or will I just connive against this person in order to make myself feel better (and look like a fool)? Ever heard of survival of the fittest? Every living thing is in competition with another, whether it's sperm racing to reach the egg first or grandparents fighting between who names the newborn. 

Why Are Women So Vindictive?

Nothing really against Kimbella (I actually like her, I just think that she doesn't really... um... think! LOL) but her situation fits my current situation. You will reap what you sow! If you continue to put out negative energy that's what you will get back. The same goes for positive energy.


You won't absolutely love everyone in your life that you will encounter but at least have respect and be cordial to everyone for that matter. If you don't want to associate with them, then don't, but if you have to interact with them, especially when working toward a common goal, be cordial (the dictionary definition, not one you made up).


Be prepared to see posts on this very subject in the future so until then remember that...
Karma is a b*tch and she will definitely kick you in the Aye!